Many years ago, my dear friend Nonine told me about her dream: “I saw you with a book in your chest, as the golden pages flew open.” She looked at me and said: “Dene, you ARE the book!” Across the years, countless hours in front of the screen, half-written stories on crumpled paper, fighting back …
The mark of true maturity arrives, for men especially, when we no longer live from our wounded places. It takes years to acknowledge that we are even wounded. But once we do, a whole new set of options arises in our lives. The core wound is the gift from the Soul, Rumi tells us, as …
I am keenly aware of how challenging to write this piece on Mother. It is scary and dangerous, just like Her. In men’s work, we avoid processing our mother issues, we hardly talk about them. She is in shadow for men, and you do not have to look far across this entire planet to see …
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This past week, I was at the boundary waters in Minnesota with 20 men, some I have known for 30 years. We see each other infrequently, and we know each other so well. We came up in this work together, we were the beginnings of the New Warriors in Milwaukee and Chicago. My intentions were …
In the absence of sacred male initiation, boys grow up with little real connection to mature older men. Fathers tend to be absent, and most men tend to be absorbed in the daily stuff of their own lives. In this current fear-based world, ruled by the lower chakras, self-preservation is the 1st law of nature. Competition …
