Category: TheMenSchool

Nurturant Fathers

As a boy, I learned to interact in the world through engaging my father. He was my liaison outside the home. I learned how to play, work, gather information about the natural world, its rules, laws, conflicts, competition. I learned how to build, create, value and appraise the overwhelming experiences that lay outside the relative safety of home. When my father was patient and encouraging, it was okay for me to take risks, make mistakes, test my environment, become an active participant in my life. I loved the thrill of being tossed up in the air and caught in… Read more »

Patriarchy and Women in the Workplace

While we have come far in the last 50 years … tremendous technological growth, global diversity awareness, economic growth for 2nd and 3rd world nations … the American workplace still remains a bastion of the old patriarchal values. And nowhere is this more evident than in the political arena. Patriarchy is not about gender. It is about a set of beliefs, attitudes, and practices that affect both men and women. It is about the masculine principle gone rogue. In the political and corporate world, the interactions remain aggressively power seeking, defensive, hierarchical, homophobic, competitive, and emotionally disconnected from people… Read more »


The Sacred Masculine Energy is the vertical axis … the sun and sky, thunderclouds, lightning. It is active, presence, direct, light, initiating, boundaried, separateness, the sword, the cock. The Sacred Feminine Energy is the horizontal axis … Mother Earth, flora, fauna, oceans,                                                                                      It is indirect, connective, fluid, open, dark. It is water, food, flowers, unifying, the grail,… Read more »

Change: Who Me?

It is a cosmic law that the only constant is change.  We see changes in everything everyday, we marvel at the way life continually unfolds its splendor and horror.  Order births chaos births order, ad infinitum.  We see ourselves change over time … bodies, feelings, attitudes, beliefs, political opinions, economic situations, relationships.  Time changes us … child, teen, young adult, middle age, elder, death.  Each is a passage, each changes us whether we like it or not.  Changes are multidimensional … effecting us in body, mind, spirit … across time. So why, when we see ourselves acting in ways… Read more »

Mentorship for Young Men

Hey Man … are you still trying to figure out who you are, and what you’re doing here? Do the traditional markers of male success leave you feeling not good enough, hungry, and wanting? Do you wake in the middle of the night with a deep ache in your chest? Welcome to the inner life of ‘middle age’ men … late 20’s, 30’s, early 40’s. There is nothing wrong with you, man, it’s just that no one has ever talked to you about these feelings or this angst. Most of us grow up in this ManBox, full of shit and false promises.… Read more »

TheMenSchool: Mentoring Younger Men

This video talks about how important it is for Mature Men to admire, encourage, and Mentor Younger Men. An age-old tradition from the Ancients, they knew the importance of mentoring the young into maturity.

TheMenSchool: Blessing

The King archetype is the aspect of the Sacred Masculine that blesses the other, that sees, values, and acknowledges another’s human beingness.

TheMenSchool: Accountability

Accountability: I take full responsibility for my life and my actions, intentional and otherwise. And I am responsive to the impact and consequences of those actions, intended or otherwise.

The MenSchool: Guts

On our men’s warrior trainings, we have a process called “guts”. It is an opportunity for a man to drop down deep below his ego, and to claim a bit of truth about who he is, no matter how painful that might be. It takes “guts” to do this work.

TheMenSchool: Changing

Men come into circles not for social reasons … men come into circles because something isn’t working in their lives and they do not know how to create meaningful and sustainable change.